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Title:
CAN I HELP YOU LOVE YOU?
Source:
Pastor Helen Oritsejafor
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"Now Jephthah the Gileadite was a might man of valour, and he was the son of an harlot: and Gilead begat Jephthah. And Gilead's wife bare him sons grew up, and they thrust out Jespthah, and said unto him, thou shalt not inherit in our father's house; for thou art the son of a strange women...And Jephthah said unto the elders of Gilead, if ye bring me home again to fight against the children of Ammon, and the LORD deliver them before me, shall i be your head?... and Jephthah uttered all his words before the LORD in Mizpeh" (Judges 11:1-11). For a better understanding of this message we shall give answers to some questions that bug believers daily. And as we get the answers based on God's word, we shall have a first hand knowledge of God's principles concerning our lives. The first pertinent question is, Who is the 'You' referred to in the title of this message? The 'You' is simply a king! And who is a king is an individual that the LORD has raised form nobody to somebody above his equals. A king is an individual that the LORD has given dominion and empowered the rulership in all? its ramifications. A king is an individual that reconizes the fact that there is always a queen where there is a king! The second pertinent question is: "Who is good king?" He is an individual that understands the responsibilities of kingship. He is conscious of the fact that it is not just enough for him to sit on the throne, but must also take good care of his domain. In other words, he must constantly nourish, protect, guide and guard his domain. The third pertinent question is: "Do you know that you are a king?" you are a king because God has given you opportunity to exercise dominion. Henceforth, you will dominate anything that has had rule over your life or put you under subjection. By His special grace, God has made you the head and not the tail. You are a king! I know you may want to ask: "Oh, pastor, do I look like a king?" Yes, you do look like a king. I am not seeing your present situation. I am seeing something that is beyond what eyes can see. I see what the word of God says. When you hear God's word, recieve it. Then the word you hear becomes an interpreted revelation or an open door in your life. Yes, the word of God says you are a king. "And hath made us kings and priests unto God and His Father; to him be the glory and dominion forever and ever Amen" (Rev.1:6). Your situation and circumstances might not say to you, "You are a king" But if God says it,that settles it! Haleluia!! Let me you an important secret at this point. In every king there is a kid; and in every kid there is a king. Of course, you know that kid is a child. In order for the king on the inside of you to metamorphose fully, you must be able to feed the kid on the inside of you. Every kid is on the inside of you is constantly crying out for attention for dominion and calling out for love. If the kid is starved of these essential nutrients, there will be deficiency in his rate of growth. Beside that, the opposite of love is hate which often manifests in the form of rejection. So if the kid does not get love, he gets rejection. What leads to rejection? The inefficiency in feeding the kid in the king! The fourth pertinent question is: "How did you grow up?" What happened when you are growing up that is preventing the king on the inside of you from manifestng? Rejection kills the king inside the kid. How? || A MAN HAVING REJECTION COMPLEX REJECTS HIMSELF AND EVEN HIS LOVED ONES! || A man under the influence of rejection will reject his wife and children without knowing what he is doing. He will reject even opportunies that will improve or advance his life, solely of the fear of being rejected. If such a man is unmarried he would find it difficult to approach and propose to a lady. Because he is afraid of being rejected. Even the married ones cannot believe that somebody can love them unconditionally. He imputes motives to every action or show of his wife. Even when express genuine love and deep affection for him, he does not reciprocate because he is suspicious. "perhaps the woman needs money or something else", he reasons. For instance, if the wife welcomes with a broad sweet smile and goes ahead to give him a very big kiss as he comes back from work; he responds coldly. He may even vocalise his suspicion to her: "Woman, you are after something...! when did all this love advances start?" In extreme cases, a man suffering from rejection does not see any reason why anyone should love him, and he cannot appreciate anything love. Do you know that even when something good is happening in their lives, they are skeptical about it? It is because they are scared that the good may and a mirage or a repeat of a previous seemingly good experience that unexpectedly brought them bitterness or failure. In relating to friends they feel rejected, if they are not leading the conversation or if others do not share their opinion. They just want to be in charge all the time. It is not easy to have a smooth communication with a man under the spell of rejection. He always looking for self-justification. Either he wants to prove a point or is under a pressure of "PERFORMANCE" because he lives with the illusion that the only way to get somebody to love is by what he does. He is just a victim of rejection. Do you know that there are some people who have meritorious qulifications, with corresponding and adequate credentials or certificates who are not bold enough to apply for a job or face panel for interview? Rather than taking a bull by the horns they resort to procrastinating and end up saying: "I will do so tomorrow" As a result of rejection syndrome, all the ability and capability that the LORD has desposited inside them remain dormant. The fear of venture into business is another symptom of rejection. He will prefer to keep his money than to invest it. As you already know such money will most likely to be spent carelessly to the dismay and chagrin of the already "rejection fellow" However I believe that in every area of your life that you are experiencing rejection, the LORD has ordained for you, in the name of Jesus. | JESUS ACCEPTS, HE DOES NOT REJECT | The man that suffers rejection has forgotten a very important aspect of his new life in Christ Jesus. "To the praise of the glory of his grace, where in he hath made us accepted in the beloved" (Eph.1:6) In other words, Jesus had made us His beloved by him and no longer rejected; He has made us accepted in the beloved. The Apostle John puts it in his way: "Ye have not chosen me, but i have chosen you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, He may give it to you" (John 15:16) What an assurance! If God has chosen you, no man can refuse or rejecct you. No man can turn you back against you. God is saying to you in the name above verse of scriptures that He has received, chosen and accepted you. He is aware of those situations in your life, those harrowing experiences that thwarted the chances of bringing out a king in you as you were growing up. He has chosen and accepted you as His beloved so that henceforth your life can give expression to the king in you without fear: ..."that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain"... The reason God stretched His arm of love to chose and accept you is for you to be fruitful. You will able to keep your marriage together and maintain lasting relationships. You move forward in business, career on the job and in all areas of your life. The king in you must manifest, so that you can rule and have dominion in your discipline or profession. Whether as a lawyer, Engineer, Doctor, Architect, or lecturer, you must be the best, or in the forefront in your profession. God accepted you to place a stamp of success on you. Let Him do just that in life. Halleluia! Take a cue from Jephthah. | REJECTION CAN BE A MOTIVATOR/KILLER | Rejection will either drive you to success or to failure. According to our text, Jephthah was a child of circumstance. He was brought into the world illegally. And to crown it all, his mother "was an harlot". By the way, I advise you in love. If as a man you have sex problem, may the LORD help you and deliver you right now because if you don't put yourself together, you will produce bastards who will become not only victims of rejection but social misfits or miscreants. The painful aspect of it all is that the innocent child gets the worst of it all. In Japhthah's case, it was Gilead and his mother who through their promiscuity gave birth to a child who came into the world to discover that he was born illegitimately. You already know that his father Gilead, had other children from a proper marriage. Now i want you to imagine what happened to this young man as he was growing up. Whenever he tried to play with his siblings, they would rebuff and scream at him. "who called you into this circle? How dare you talk when we are talking! Shut up and get out! You don't belong here!" He must have suffered a lot of discrimination, humiliation and of course,a lot of rejection as well. His own household rejected him. Before outsiders can reject you, you have been written off as a nobody from within. Now take your mind off Jephthah. Maybe you feel the way Jephthah felt as you read on. It might not have been that you are an illegitimate child, but somehow things are not in order in your family. You observed as you were growing up that your neighbours out there had generators but your family had only bush lanterns. Something registered in you that those people were superior to you. You grew up with this inferiority complex bottled up within you and it has not allowed the king in you to manifest. Is it okay to get into your history? Permit me to do so because i want to help you love yourself. In Jephthah's case his family went a step further. They threw him out of his own inheritance! Perhaps like him, you have been unjustifiably denied something that ought to be yours by right. The Lord will restore you, as you study the steps Jephthah took to cope with his own situation. |OVERCOMING REJECTION | ..."and Jephthah utteered all his words before the LORD in Mizpeh" (Judges 11:11). The first step Jephthah took to overcome rejection was that he constantly maintained communication with the LORD. Where do you spend your time, when you are supposed to be the house of God? Infact the Bible records that Jephthah "uttered all his words in Mizpeh" "Mizpeh" means "watchtower" which means "security". Where else do you find security other than in the house of God? That is to say, he knew that the way out of his predicament was to build up a solid security through hearing the word of God constantly . ..."faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God"(Rom. 10:17). He knew that the only way that he could orientate his mind that has said to him that he is no good can happen to him is by showing up in the house of God to constantly hear his word that says: "Jephthah you are a king, and there is something special about you! You are a treasure child. You might have been a child of circusmstance but there is destiny in you. God didn't make you poor, desolate and a nobody. God made you a somebody. Don't look down on yourself. Don't write yourself off or refer to your past mistakes. Look at the future and what God's word says about you. Men may say it is over, it's just time for God to pick you up and make you something. When men says you cannot amount to anything, that is when God decides to put His hand unto you and make you a king. Jephthah you are a king! God does not consult your past to secure your future!" If Jephthah had not been in the house of security would he have heard these destiny declarations? He was able to correct the power of rejection in his life. Come to your place of security brethren, because as you hear this word the king in you will be awakened today. In the house of security Jephthah received the word of God which says: "God loves you" "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son"... (John 3:16). If God gave his only son for you, then there must be something in your life that is worth it. Jephthah received this love because he was able to give that same love to others. He became fruitful (John 15:16). No wonder he became a Pastor of all the disgruntled men in his neighbourhood. ..."and they were gathered vain men to Jephthah, and went out with him" (Judges 11:3). Words of Wisdom: Security without God is a security risk (Judges 11:10) What happened to Jephthah? Love! He showed love and these men who had never been loved found solace in him. Beside, for you to be able to give love, you must love yourself. ..."Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself" (Mt. 19:19b). This implies that it is what you have that you gave to your wife, husband, children, and friends, family and to others. And the way to have what you can give is by accepting the love that God has given to you so that you can in turn reach out to someone else in love. For Jephthah, therefore, to reach out to those vain men, he was no more feeling rejected. He had accepted God's love and in his turn reached out to them. Praise God.
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